A Birth, A Death and A Breakup

Life changes, there are no guarantees.. This week I have watched the lives of a few of my friends and seen how they are changing.

The first, told me he was going to be a father for the second time. He is beaming, walking on air. So very proud and excited.

The second, lost her mother. It was a complicated relationship, not unlike many mother daughter relationships, but they loved each other and the grief of her loss is weighing on my friend. She will recover, she will be happy again but she will never have her mother. Shudder the thought. I know it happens but I hope not for a long long time.

And finally two friends whom I love dearly ended their relationship both are grieving both want to lash out and both are dear enough to let me love them both.

Life changes my friends, enjoy what you have treasure it, you don't know how long you will have it..

Loss

Today I saw the end of a relationship, these were two of my dearest friends and it has been horrible to watch. They have pushed and pulled and struggled harder than any two people I know to make it work.

But they were probably the least compatible two people I have ever met. They were great friends, a dynamic duo but when they put it all on the line committed to each other they crashed. And as with all crashes their was collateral damage, I am sure I am going to loose one if not both of them as friends. I will offer them what support I can but in the end I was part of their family and this part they can prune.

When in conversation with her she said she was through, no more and although I saw her pain, saw her anger I can't agree. I hope honestly and completely that she can one day look up and say yes I am ready to try again. To give my heart oh not anytime soon, that would be a joke. But I want her to see that love is something that we all should strive for, that we all should accept as our due. Oh we may never find it or not completely but to turn one's back on it? To say never again? That is condemning oneself to hell on earth.

For all the failures of my marriage and there were many to have never tried at all? What a loss that would have been. To say I will never love again? No, that is not likely. Not even in the darkest days did I say never again. I believe that we as humans need to love. We seek it out, we dream of the what if's and happily ever afters.. Oh love is not easy it is work, darned hard work but it is worth it. To be able to have that one person who holds you in the night, who keeps the demons away to even have that chance that whisper of hope? Yes it is all worth it.

To risk it all and loose has is so much better than than to never risk it at all.